Are you excited about your life? Are you pursuing your passions? Or are you miserable a lot of the time? You don’t deserve to live a life that doesn’t make you happy. In order for you to rise above this stage in life you will need to stop and reconsider your life’s direction.
Stage 1: The Pre-contemplation Stage
Realize you have built this world for yourself, so you have the power to re-model it, however you choose.
So often we get in the habit of floating down the lazy river of life. We don’t do a “life inventory” as often as we should. You are your most important relationship you will ever have, don’t neglect yourself.
Stage 2: Contemplation Stage:
So now you are thinking about the areas of your life that cause you unnecessary stress or even make you depressed. You know that there are actions you need to take in order for you to change.
Now it’s time to prepare!
Stage 3 The Preparation/Determination Stage:
So, you’ve decided to do something about it. Good! Know that you have the power to steer your life in any direction you choose. It’s your life. You grab a notebook and write down the parts of your life that are not fulfilling you or leading you to your ultimate goals. Write out your current problems in life and the solutions for each item.
Take your “Problems/Solutions” list and Google your solutions and how you can achieve them, write it down. Focus on the solutions, not the problems. Break each solution down into small steps and then prioritize them.
These are the tasks that will change your life.
Perhaps you have been denying and ignoring these issues for most of your life, so why wouldn’t you do the same thing today? Just do the first item. Don’t think about it, you might talk yourself out of it.
Imagine the benefits you will gain from adopting these new behaviors and skills. This should help fuel your motivation to attain these goals.
If you don’t talk yourself into why you need these different behaviors then your mind will blow it off and go back to default settings (where it loves being). Know that those default settings aren’t working and they need to be tweaked.
Take your goals seriously, this list not a list of things you’d like to have someday when the time is “right”. Do not wait for the time to be “right” to start something. Start before you are ready! That is the fastest way to learn, just jump right in! Turn your solutions into your new habits and take them seriously.
Stage 4 The Action Stage:
Now, you start the first step. You start doing the things you need to do in order to improve your life like: meditating, doing Yoga, controlling your anger, hanging out around positive go-getters, you manage your time better so you can do things you enjoy or maybe you find your passion? Do the solutions you chose on a regular basis. Keep that “Problems/Solutions” list in a place you will see it often.
Stage 5 Maintenance Stage:
Setup a system to help you through the rough parts of your mission. Join a group that is focused on your goal on Meetup.com. That way you can be around people who are striving for the same goals.
Set a reminder on your phone to go off every day at your designated time for you to do that task. When your reminder alerts you, stop what you are doing, don’t think and start the task. Starting is the hardest part, so you might need to just shove yourself right into it.
After that, it will be so much easier, you will be motivated to blast through obstacles on your path because you know that you are taking control of your life and heading towards your dreams.