5 Stages to Change Your Life Forever

Are you excited about your life? Are you pursuing your passions? Or are you miserable a lot of the time? You don’t deserve to live a life that doesn’t make you happy.  In order for you to rise above this stage in life you will need to stop and reconsider your life’s direction.  

 Stage 1: The Pre-contemplation Stage

Realize you have built this world for yourself, so you have the power to re-model it, however you choose.

 So often we get in the habit of floating down the lazy river of life. We  don’t do  a “life inventory” as often as we should. You are your most important relationship you will ever  have, don’t neglect yourself. 

Stage 2: Contemplation Stage:
So now you are thinking about the areas of your life that cause you unnecessary stress or even make you  depressed. You know that there are actions you need to take in order for you to change.
Now it’s time to prepare!

Stage 3  The Preparation/Determination  Stage:

So, you’ve  decided to do something about it. Good! Know that you have the power to steer your life in any direction you choose. It’s your  life.  You grab a notebook and write down the parts of your life that are not fulfilling you or  leading you to your ultimate  goals. Write out your current problems  in life and the solutions for each item. 

Take your  “Problems/Solutions” list and Google your solutions and how you can achieve them, write it down. Focus on the solutions, not the problems. Break each solution down into small steps and then prioritize them. 
 These are the tasks that will  change your life. 
Perhaps you have been denying and ignoring these issues for most of your life,  so why wouldn’t you do the same thing today?  Just do the first item. Don’t think  about it, you might talk yourself out of it. 

Imagine the benefits you will gain from adopting these new behaviors and skills. This should help fuel your motivation to attain these goals. 
If you don’t talk yourself into why you need these different behaviors then your mind will blow it off and go back to default settings (where it loves being). Know that those default settings aren’t working and they need to be tweaked. 

Take your goals seriously, this list not a list of things you’d like to have someday when the time is “right”. Do not wait for the time to be “right” to start something. Start before you are ready! That is the fastest way to learn,  just jump right in! Turn your solutions into your new habits and take them seriously.

 Stage 4 The Action Stage:
Now, you start the first step. You start doing the things you need to do in order to improve your life like: meditating, doing Yoga, controlling your anger, hanging out around positive go-getters,  you manage your time better so you can do things you enjoy or maybe you find your passion? Do the solutions you chose on a regular basis. Keep that “Problems/Solutions” list in a place you will see it often. 

Stage 5 Maintenance Stage:
Setup a system to help you through the rough parts of your mission. Join a group that is focused on your goal on Meetup.com. That way you can be around people who are striving for the same goals. 
Set a reminder on your phone to go off every day at your designated time for you to do that task. When your reminder alerts you, stop what you are doing, don’t think and start the task. Starting is the hardest part, so you might need to just shove yourself right into it.
 After that, it will be so much easier, you will be motivated to blast through obstacles on your path because you know that you are taking control of your life and heading towards your dreams.

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Are you living like a robot, programmed by your parents and society?

Do you know if you’ve been programmed? Do you feel free to say, do or wear whatever you want? Are you religious? Do you think a perfect life consists of going to college, getting married and having kids, getting a degree and working in that field for the rest of your life whether or not it is your passion or if you even like it?

Is that all what you REALLY want for your life? Would making your parents proud of you, make the inner you, satisfied with what you’ve done with your life?

I am not the wisest of all people but I am a truth seeker and within truth is wisdom. I have had years of contemplation, several near-death experiences and I believe that life is invaluable and should be treasured while you have it. One should never waste their life just to appease other people. If you don’t plan your life (or program yourself), someone else will, and that most likely won’t be to your benefit.

We have one thing in life and that is life. This is the ONE AND ONLY TIME that you get to be here alive. Do not waste it trying to fulfill your parent’s (or your friend’s) fantasies and religious belief’s their parents programmed into them.  

You don’t have to live the ideal life of someone, a generation before you wanted. Things change. The Cold War is OVER. We no longer should think we have to go to college, get married, pay taxes, have kids and die. There is much more to living than being a human clone and hoping nobody notices that you are a weirdo inside.

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Psst! We are all weirdos inside and everyone else is hiding it too. Break out of the facade and be brave enough to let your inner weirdness out. People might be inspired by you and bust out of their illusion of normalcy also. You were not meant to be a robot you were meant to be a unique individual.

Screw it if people think you are weird … they just don’t have the balls to express their inner weirdness. Weird is good. People that talk shit about you are not the people you WANT to be around anyway. So simply tell them to look the other way if they don’t like what they see.

If they cannot pry themselves away from obsessing about you then just block, ignore or unfriend them. Seriously, even family. You are not a bad person if you choose to not listen to negativity from people in your family. They don’t deserve to be able to talk to you if they can’t be supportive or nice. You are worth more than that and bloodlines do not mean you have to be at the mercy to their passive aggressive comments for life.pexels-photo-320007

You don’t have time for that BS. You are rarer than any diamond. You are the ONLY YOU EVER. Take that bit of advice seriously when you think of picking up that call or responding defensively to a hater’s text. You don’t have to defend yourself to them. That’s not your job to prove your worthiness… just know you are worthy no matter what ANYONE says, have quiet, unbreakable confidence.

So to recap, realize that is YOUR job to program yourself how you see fit. Relationships will come and go throughout life but the one you have with yourself will be with you till your last breath. So, you might as well get along with yourself, do work that you are passionate about and live your life according to your standards.